21 Things I’ve Learned at 21
ambered lessons
Kindness always wins. Choosing to be kind is choosing to embrace the beauty of the human experience—it is what makes life worth living. But we must not forget to be kind to ourselves, to pour kindness into our own hearts.
Always run the extra mile—you’ll never regret it.
Tell people how you feel, how you really feel.
Do what feels right for you.
We are all on our own timelines.
You can’t do it all alone.
Learn when to walk away.
Hurt people hurt people. It’s true. I have been hurt by a hurt person, and I have been a hurting person who has hurt someone else. When we are in pain, we cannot hold space for others because we are not even making room for ourselves. Learn to forgive. Learn to make space for more love. It isn’t easy, but it allows for a peaceful existence.
The difference between feel and want: We don’t always feel like doing what we want.
It’s okay to get annoyed at those you love, but it’s important to understand why.
Take care of your body out of love, not hate.
No one can tend to 100% of your needs. There are many different versions of yourself that coexist within you. You get to explore all of them through the people in your life. Nurture all the different sides of yourself—embrace them.
Intuition doesn’t speak; you have to learn to feel it.
A romantic partner should never make you doubt yourself.
The right person’s presence will make you want to be better simply because they inspire you—even though they already see you as extraordinary.
Your friends are a reflection of you.
Imagine your dream self. What music do they listen to? What do they wear? What are their hobbies? Then, do everything they do.
Embrace everything that makes you you. I know we’ve all heard it before, but it’s easier said than done. I spent so much of my life comparing myself to others, but I began to thrive when I became true to myself. I dove deep into my childhood fascinations and cemented them into who I am. For example, I’ve always loved dragonflies, and now all the important people in my life know that about me and think of me every time they see one. Embrace what you love. Share your joy. Be you.
Romanticize day-to-day life—it makes life worth living. To an extent, you control the narrative. Make it positive. Make it beautiful.
Always make sacrifices for those you love.
Loving someone else always feels better when you have found love for yourself. It allows you to hold space for communication, vulnerability, and magic. True love requires two people willing to heal themselves so they can further heal one another.
sending my love,
V